ADOLESCENT THINKING

ADOLESCENT THINKING

While many women are prospering, in large part due to their mature thinking and behavior,
some women's minds are stalled at an immature thinking stage. Too many MissLed women's minds are mired in ignorance, in large part due to their habit of Adolescent thinking.  Unfortunately for them, their thinking never matured or developed beyond the natural human tendency to think in
merely adolescent terms.  This is shown by:

• An intense preoccupation with their own feelings.
• A misplaced belief that they are special and unique.
• Imaginary audience. Encouraged by the fleeting attention they receive by men, they mistakenly think they are the focus of others' attention (style, body, hair).  They falsely perceive that others must do the same thing that they do -  namely, think about and monitor them. They fail to realize that while they may be preoccupied with themselves, others are not so inclined.
• Personal Fable. Their ardent belief that their feelings and experiences can't be understood by others - because they are unique.
• Illusion of Invulnerability. Their misinformed belief that bad things won't happen to them (only to other people). This often allows them to (delusionally) believe they can get good outcomes without having to do the appropriate amount of work.

The typical consequences of adolescent thinking are significant.  They include dishonesty, justification, making excuses, blaming others, and playing the victim.

The 8 most common indicators of Adolescent thinking:

1. Victim Stance:  Those MissLed women who don't take responsibility for their own actions.
 Example:  "He got me drunk.".

2. Lack of Effort - Those MissLed women who don't  put sufficient energy toward completing required tasks.

3. Lack of Concern for Others - Those MissLed women who don't  have an age-appropriate amount of focus on other people's welfare.

4.  Fears Being Put Down or “Punked:”  Those MissLed women who don't anyone to tell them what to do or to give them constructive criticism.

5.  Refusing a Trust or Obligation:   Those MissLed women who don't follow rules or refuse to participate.

6.  Shows Weak and False Pride: Those MissLed women  who take pride in lack of accomplishments, create fears in others, and do the exact opposite of what is expected of a responsible citizen.

7. Using Anger Inappropriately:  Those MissLed women  who overuse anger in difficult situations.

8.  Poor Planning & Decision Making: Those MissLed women who don't think before they act.


Not surprisingly, those MissLed women who think on the level of an adolescent are unable to consistently act in a mature manner. Too often, because they did not learn to properly analyze situations, they do what they feel, instead of what needs to be done: 

"The ability to analyze situation and do what needs to be done rather than what we feel like doing is the very essence of maturity.  It is a skill hard won, and that requires regular exercise to remain viable." Albert Bernstein, Ph. D., Emotional Vampires at Work: Dealing with Bosses and Coworkers Who Drain You Dry, (NY: McGraw-Hill Education, 2013) 20.

A final cost to MissLed women who think at the adolescent level is in communication.  As would be expected, their immature thinking leads them to write and speak in ways that are less creative, less articulate, and thereby, less effective.  The implications of such a communication deficit to their personal and professional lives are tremendously significant (for more, see MissCommunication section).

WHY DOES ADOLESCENT THINKING MATTER?
Too often, MissLed women who engage in adolescent thinking  tend to blame, to justify their words or actions, to attempt to rationalize bad behaviors, seek to minimize any errors, a make excuses for
any mistakes. Not surprisingly, these damaging results of adolescent thinking can have significant adverseaffects on MissLed women's personal relationships.
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(Daniel Elkind) Pseudostupidity: adolescents fail to see the obvious, not because it is too hard, but because they make a simple tack more complicated than it is.
Indecisiveness: Over analyzing the pros and cons of everyday decisions.
Argumentativeness: Can see all the possibilities and feels a need to express them.
Idealism: Can compare what is, to the way it could be.

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BEAUTY=Power is often associated with Adolescent thinking...
Imaginary Audience - boosted by the fleeting attention they receive by men, they IMAGINE
that people are interested in them or their thoughts

Risky behavior - sexual conduct
Omnipotent
Sensation/pleasure seeking