Check your VIEWGAP!

V*I*E*W   G*A*P

Victim * Irrational * Egocentric * Wishful
 ------------->     THINKING
Group * Adolescent  * PC                                         

Why is does Victim Thinking persist in some MissLed women?
One explanation -  there's a dirty little secret involving MissLed
women and victim thinking.  In truth, many of them secretly find it
emotionally satisfying.  It can serve to shield them behind a shroud
of martyrdom. In fact, the reason that victim thinking persists with
some MissLed women (and misguided men) is that it has many
short- term, and quite seductive, advantages:

 ■Attention and validation. They can always get good feelings from other people that are
concerned about them and therefore try to help them. (On the other hand, it may not last for that
long as people get tired of it).

 ■They don’t have to take risks. Those who feel like a victim tend to not take action, hence they
 don’t have to risk rejection or failure.

 ■MissLed women don’t have to take on the sometimes heavy responsibility. Taking responsibility for their own lives can be hard work. Difficult decisions must be made - which can weigh heavily. In the short term it can feel like the easier choice to not take personal responsibility.

 ■It makes them feel righteous. Feeling like they are right and the supposed perpetrator is
 is wrong leads to pleasurable feelings.